Heat 1tbsp ghee in a small saute pan, fry the nuts and raisins until golden brown. Remove and set aside.
To the same pan, add 2tbsp ghee and add the broken wheat and cook until it starts to smell nutty and fragrant.
Add the milk and 1 cup water; bring the mixture to a boil; lower the heat and simmer the mixture until the broken wheat is cooked through, about 10-12 minutes.
Next add the sugar; mixture will become liquidy and slowly will start to thicken. Cook until the mixture thickens considerably, another 10 minutes.
Finally add the cardamom and fried nuts and raisins. Serve hot or cold or at room temperature.